A few weeks ago I wrote a blog post about feeling lonely. Many of you wrote me echoing those feelings. You empathized with how difficult it is to make meaningful connections as parents and wished there were more ways to just “do life” with others. Since then, I’ve been on a hunt to find the best community groups in the area. This list is in no way exhaustive, but it’s a good starting point. I would love to add to it if you have more suggestions. Send me a message on IG or comment on this blog post, and I’ll make the edits here.
Before sharing the community group suggestions, I want to repost this thread I found on IG. It’s a touching reminder of the importance of just showing up. So often when we are lonely, or when we suspect our friends are going through a lonely or difficult time, the phrase “Is there anything I can do to help?” is tossed around. But when you’re truly in a rough spot, you might not have the ability, or the vulnerability, to name what you need. As a friend, you’ve got to just show up. As the friend in need… let them show up.
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It can feel terrifying to join one of these community groups. Anxieties abound when you have to go out on a limb in front of complete strangers. Don’t be afraid to say that. Tell the organizer, “I want to join but I am really struggling with being anxious about starting new.” Ask for someone who can stand by your side that first time. Ask if you can come early so it’s not so overwhelming to be in the crowd of attendees.
If you are on the other side, and you see someone new joining your group, *be that friend* for them. Stand by their side to make it less overwhelming that first visit. Follow up with them. Reach out to make sure they’re doing ok. Together, we can build that community we’ve been searching for.
Did you catch that last square? Frecklefaced Adventures (yours truly) is going to be more intentional in 2023 about hosting meetups for parents. My Gym Brentwood has generously offered to host a free Open Play for us at the beginning of each month. Space is limited, however, so you’ll want to be fast on the eventbrite signups sent out in my monthly newsletters. I am also planning on additional meetup each month that will vary in location. All are welcome at these events. Stay tuned for more info!
2 thoughts on “Making Friends”
We have twins, so here’s another to add to the list!
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Thank you for being vulnerable and open with sharing your feelings. I feel much the same and just wanted to say that I see you!
For me the pandemic (and then my kid’s rare disease diagnosis) shattered any semblance of regular in person + text/phone support I had and it’s been a struggle to regain it. The relationships aren’t the same, people have moved to different states, etc.
The reminder to just show up is helpful – as is the nudge for those who are a little more confident to reach out to those new faces or those who might be standing on the edges, solo, looking in.